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Own It: Change Your Life by Taking 100% Responsibility

Success doesn’t just happen. Successful people are almost always focused, motivated, and decisive. You know what else? They own their actions. From their fitness to their portfolios, successful people “own it.”

Why? When you take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and actions, what you are really doing is claiming your power. You are putting yourself in charge. For some, that sounds intimidating. But if you aren’t happy with every aspect of your life, the universe is telling you it’s time to make a change and own your choices.

Harsh Truth: Your results are, the product of your actions, so if you don’t like where your life is at—be that at work, in your relationship, or even in your own skin—the only person who can change that is you!

Blaming and complaining seems to be an epidemic; we are almost conditioned to point the finger at outside influences every time we find ourselves in an unpleasant situation. We sit at a desk in a job we hate. We shove cookies down our pie-hole and wonder why we feel sluggish and can’t zip up our jeans. We look longingly at the couple in the park holding hands while we scroll on our smartphones, not making an effort with our relationships. And we point to someone or something else as the source of our dissatisfaction.

Take the three examples I just gave. Let’s look at each one.

You’re stuck in a job you hate

You feel trapped by the money, your mortgage, etc. But what would happen if you stopped pointing to the reasons you are miserable and you asked yourself, “How do I make this job work for me?” or in an even more radical approach, you identified what you really want to do and started taking steps to do it?  Enroll in a class. Talk to your boss about reducing your hours. Start interviewing. Nothing changes unless you change it.

You hate your body

You eat out of stress, boredom, or habit. You blame holidays and a heavy workload. But maybe, if you said, “This is MY body and I want to love it,” and you owned every bite you put in your mouth, your jeans would loosen up and you might start feeling a little better about yourself. As much as it sucks to admit it, you make the choice to eat the cookies and you make the choice to go to the gym. Your health, like every other part of your life, is your responsibility and if you’re not happy, only you can change it.

You feel disconnected and isolated

You see couples looking happy, connected and in love but you feel disconnected and isolated. You blame your job, the kids, or your partner for how dissatisfied you feel. What if you looked at how your actions create distance?  Are you setting down your phone and turning off the TV to interact with the people you love? Are you making thoughtful gestures and communicating your desires clearly without anger or blame?  You CAN have the relationship you want but it takes your full commitment and a willingness to accept 100% responsibility for your half.

The unifying principle

The unifying principle in all three of those scenarios is that failing to embrace your responsibility keeps you stuck in an unhappy place; for things to get better you have to identify the problem, want it to be different, and own it. If you want something better for yourself, you can absolutely make it happen. I’m saying the first step is to recognise you’ve had the power all along.

Looking at your life without the blinders of blame can be painful and truly liberating all at once. Don’t get bogged down in yesterday. The past is gone and the present is fleeting, but the future is ripe with possibility.

Do you want a better life?

Are you tired of where you are?

Do you think you deserve more?

It’s time to let go of all the excuses you’ve used as a safety net and claim your life. Once you take back your power and you begin to own your success, you will be amazed at how much stronger and braver you start to feel. All that blame and fear is crippling. That’s a truth I think we all accept.

The very first step toward changing your life and making it better is taking 100% responsibility for the whole amazing thing. Own it.

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